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Sunday, 08 November 2009

  • So let me go back a few days, friday. Friday my childs father shows up to pick her up for the weekend. She is so distraught that she is not stayin home with me. But alright, so I send her anyway. Let her father deal wit that mess, since he created it.
    So the weekend goes on. Okay so its Sunday and its time for lil mama to come home. So she gets home and her father wants to have this conversation, so I tell lil mama to go in the house. He grabs her and then tells her to stay!!! By this poit its OFFICIAL I am on FIRE. I don't believe in involving children in grown up conversations. My child is aware that me and her father don't get along, and that is all she needs to know. So he goes on to tell me about some conversation he had with her. Then he tells me that she is expected to memorize his number and is REQUIRED to call him once a week. Now mind you, he pays NO bills in my house whatsoever. The house phone isn't even in my name. WTF do you think you are to dictate to me what goes on in MY house?!I don't dictate to you what you do in yours.
    So then he starts threatining m with going to court, like that is supposed to make me scared?! I told that dickface to go head you want to waste taxpayers money over some foolishness.

    Was I wrong to be furious with him? You readers can be honest with me I would really appreciate it.

Saturday, 07 November 2009

Monday, 02 November 2009

  • The Joys of dealing with the Kids father, when you're no longer together

    So me and my child's father haven't been together in quite sometime. Since then he has married the mother of his first daughter. Now, since he's on this kick that he wants to be involved in her academics (not that I mind). I doesn't bother me that he wants to be head of the PTO (seeing as we have never really had one in this school I think he would be a great candidate although I question his motives). I don't even have a beef if he wants to meet her teachers and keep himself abreast of her progress. What I do have an issue with is, when he expects an 8 YEAR OLD to be responsible enough to remember to relay a message to me about some work that he asked for from her teacher. Don't get me wrong I have a good kid on my hands for the most part, but there are some things that I know she just isn't ready for. This level of responsibility is not for her, yet. She has to grow into it and in time she will. It would be different if she were say 12 or older, but she isn't. She is 8 and soon to be nine on the 19th of this month.The kicker bout this is that when he gets to the house to get lil mama, he NEVER SAYS A WORD TO ME about this paperwork. Last time I looked at my birth certificate, there is nothing that even remotely means Psychic attached to it and I don't work for the psychic friends network eithe. Furthermore,I am not sending two or three sheets with her when she is going to be there for all of two days. A few weeks back I sent some of her homework with her only because there was a lot of it and there was no way she was going to be able to do it all on the sunday when she came home from her father's house. But this does not mean that I will be sending homework every time she goes. Absolutely NOT.

    So now I have to sit and have a long conversation with him about this issue. I know him well enough already to know that when I mention going to see the mediator (so I don't punch the dog shit out of him),  that he will say some bull about "Well I don't have the finances to do that" or "I don't have time". Mind you I am not asking him to pay for it, it's coming out of my pocket. I am not even asking for 1/2 of the cost to see this man (which I might add is $180).

Friday, 30 October 2009

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    A new attitude

    So I am trying this new thing called 'reframing'. So you are wondering what reframing is, let me help you. Reframing is what you do when you take a negative and turn it into a positive. So I am reframing my attitude by not allowing any negative energy to affect me. So far it's working but  Lord knows, it is not easy. But I think as time goes on it will get easier. Wish me luck.

Sunday, 25 October 2009

  • color me confused

    So most recently I have this neglected feeling. Mainly when it comes to the bf. I mean what's the point of havin a dude that don't see or talk to. To make matters worse, he lives three hours away. Three whole hours and I feel like he is the last cookie in the jar. The one cookie I can't reach.

    But here is the kicker an old fling got pissed with me for sleeping with an old fling and not telling him!! Now let's sit back think on this. We talk more often than not via txt msg. And he has nerve to say that I am hiding something? How bout anytime I went to go visit when we were dating, he would never allow me to stay at his house or god forbid he ever answer his phone. His excuse was that he didn't want to bring me to the hood (as if I have never been there) or that the reason he never answered his phone was b/c he was always busy. Two excuses I didn't buy then or now. So who was hiding what?? I never hid how I get down or what I am into. I just don't flaunt it in front of everyone or try to force it down pples throats.

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